And yes, Netflix asked me, "are you still watching?"...several times.
Each time, I yelled at it to stop judging me as I pressed the 'continue to watch' button.
Me. Netflix, My couch. Some homemade peanut butter bread.
Exactly what the doctor ordered.
I spent most of yesterday (prior to noted Netflix binge) feeling extremely anxious. I was worried about everything - my family, my friends, my business, your business, my hair, the pandemic, the protestors, the state of the world, all the things.
I tried to coach myself out of it, but my brain was having none of it. So I stopped, got out a comfy blanket, and plopped on the couch.
This morning, I feel human again.
I have been pushing myself too much lately - working a lot. I justified it because really 'what else is there to do.' And, of course, work provides a nice distraction from all the crazy-ass stuff going on in the world right now.
All work and no self-care makes Jen a cranky 'you know what.'
Are you taking care of yourself...
These days have been strange for me...for all of us.
I am heading toward the end of week 4 of social distancing. It feels so weird. I have been on the road every week this year - and suddenly everything came to a screeching halt.
Now I find myself all over the place with my emotions. One day I am ready to take on the world the next I am contemplating the value of brushing my hair. You?
Life is uncertain.
COVID-19 is just a new way to remind us of the uncertainty of life. Our brains are like "WTF is this? I haven't mentally prepared for this one?!?"
It is our brain's job to keep us safe - even though sometimes it gets in the way of us living.
For right now, let your brain do its job. Let it worry. But don't let it paralyze you.
When you start to feel worried, feel worried but do something while your brain is running a million miles an hour. Use that energy wisely.
I clean. Like really clean. I went all Marie Kondo on my condo. Cleaning grounds me.
I had an interesting chat with a potential client yesterday, and I wanted to share it with you.
As I usually do during a consultation, I wanted to find out exactly what was going on with her, her team, and what exactly she hoped to gain by working with me. We went through 'all the things'. By the end of the call, she was All IN and excited to get to work.
And then she wasn't.
And I LOVED her reason!
She realized she was exhausted and worn out. She needed to rest, to restore - NOT go All IN on herself, her business, and her team. She hadn't taken a real break in YEARS and now she could. AND she wanted a break. Yes!
I loved that she listened to and honored her body.
I am the first one to tell people that health - both physical and mental - should be your number one priority. Without your health, you ain't got nothin'.
As entrepreneurs, you are wired to HUSTLE. This is why you are so...
Maybe you told yourself, “One day this will all be worth it. My business will be a well-oiled machine. Right now, I just need to get some help so that my business can continue to grow. A team is definitely the answer to taking the pressure off.”
How’d that work out for you?
So many of my clients are surprised at how hard it is to have a team. They thought adding bodies to their thriving business would relieve some pressure. Instead of having to continue to hustle, they could share the workload.
It makes sense.
Except it isn’t that easy.
YOU know exactly what your business needs. YOU know all the moving parts. YOU live and breathe your business.
But your team doesn’t.
They don’t know your business like you do. They aren’t wired like you. They don’t think or work as you do.
And that's okay.
Your team needs you to LEAD. To tell them...
There is a lot of uncertainty right now.
Our brains HATE uncertainty.
For many of us, when we feel uncertain, we start trying to control the uncontrollable. That is a waste of mental (and physical) energy.
Right now, we can’t control a lot of what is happening with COVID-19 other than doing the FIVE:
1 HANDS - Wash them often
2 ELBOW - Cough into it
3 FACE - Don't touch it
4 FEET - Stay more than 3ft apart
5 FEEL sick? - Stay home
I want to offer that this period of uncertainty can be a gift of TIME.
One of the biggest issues my clients face is not having enough time to get everything done.
This is literally changing minute-by-minute.
While the number of COVID-19 cases seems to be speeding up, our pace is slowing down.
Undoubtedly, many of you have concerns about your business, and it's future. I understand. We are witnessing unprecedented economic times, but you CAN come out stronger than before.
Use this gift of time to focus on...
When I ask my clients about their team and the culture of their business, the response is often along the lines of ‘we are like one big ol’ family.’
Instant red flag.
Listen, I get it. I really do. One of my teams used to call me ‘Mama’ and it felt good…until it didn’t.
You are going to fire members of your team. That is just the truth of having a team. And firing ‘family’ makes it that much harder.
You are an entrepreneur running a business. Your employees are an investment in your business so that you can grow it. You are not an employer of a large company. You are not a charity organization.
That may feel a little harsh, but it is the reality.
Leading a team is challenging enough. Our brains like to create drama, but the reality is that leading a team doesn’t have to be that dramatic.
It is simply business.
Now, you can absolutely care about the...
My guess is you found this blog because you have a desire to be a better leader.
That is so awesome!
So, let’s talk about what it means to lead.
Many people think that leadership is about getting other people to do what they want them to do in order to achieve a certain outcome.
But that isn’t how I define leadership.
If you have been following me, you know I teach that one of the foundations of effective leadership is learning to manage yourself - managing your mind and the stories you tell yourself.
I also teach you that you have zero control over other people’s thoughts, feelings, and actions.
You may be wondering, if that is true then how can anyone be a good leader?
I believe leadership comes from having confidence in yourself and your ideas. It means showing up authentically as yourself and putting your ego aside. Leading with the knowledge that the only person you can ever control is yourself.
Leadership is about...
Of course, you answered an "Oh, Hell YES!' to that question. The hardest part of leading a team is dealing with employee issues. They are such a drag.
But it really doesn't have to be as hard you are making it.
During a session last week a client was recounting an employee issue. His comment was so powerful that I thought I would share it with you.
“It is so much easier to deal with employees now that I know what to do.”
I asked him what he meant by that.
He said, “Well, I set expectations, and told them how I was going to hold them accountable to those expectations. So, when she didn’t show up for work, I knew what to do and she knew what to expect.”
YES! YES! YES!
Seriously, you guys! This is where the magic happens when it comes to building an effective team.
Expectations and Accountability.
You can’t have one without the other. It simply doesn’t work.
Have you watched my 5-day free...
If you are anything like me, when you tackle something new, you go ALL IN.
You are excited to learn. You jump in headfirst. You research all the things, you try all the things, you talk about all the things, and expect to be the expert at all the things…in 2.2 seconds.
It is kinda like eating healthy for three days and expecting to lose all your extra weight.
This approach makes most people feel defeated – maybe even hopeless – and they start to toy with the idea of giving up…quitting.
Hello – Ka-jillion dollar dieting industry!
I have seen so many people take this same approach with leadership. They go all in. Cram their heads with tons of information only to get burnt out and give up.
It doesn’t work like that. It takes time to learn how to learn anything new – including learning to lead.
I think you know that - or at least you hope that is the case – because...
→Inspiring your team to do their best work
→Giving up the need to micro-manage
→Having tough conversations without all the mental drama
→Having a life outside of work
→Enjoying your business again
I can help.
I’ve got a FREE Training of proven techniques that will show you exactly how to Transform Your Business with Effective Leadership.