the Boss card

May 19, 2020

Here's your PSA for the day: You're the boss.

My first team were fifteen Jersey girls who were older than me, had way more tenure, and worked remotely in the field.  My office was in the "Ivory Tower" (our corporate office).

Not my dream job. 

I had no training (big shocker), and I had some big goals.

I was clueless.

As a hardcore people-pleaser, I thought I'll get in there and be their friend.  Get them to like me.  Once they like me, it'll be rainbows and sunshine.

Not so much.

Each of them had their way of doing things, and they had been doing it this way for a long time. They had no interest in changing.

"It ain't' broke, so why fix it."

Except it was 'broke.'

Something was going to have to change, but I was struggling with what to do next.

Then my knight in shining armor, in the form of my HR Manager, arrived.

She talked me off the ledge and gave me permission to be the boss.

"You need to use the boss card."


"They are doing their own thing because you aren't taking the lead and giving them direction."

She was right.  I was more concerned with what they thought about me than actually getting the job done.

I took her advice and starting to set expectations and then held them accountable to those expectations.

As a new leader, it was the scariest thing I had ever done, but it was also the most effective.

Now I look back at my first team, and I smile, we got some great work done and had a lot of fun along the way.

Your team needs you to be the boss.  They need direction.  They need to know what you expect so they can perform their job effectively.

Your team will respect you and work harder for you if you lead them.

Now, pay attention.  Using the 'boss card' is like using salt. Use it sparingly.  

And in case you need a reminder, here are your responsibilities as the 'boss':

  • It is your job to make decisions about how your business should move forward.
  • It is your job to set expectations for your team.
  • It is your job to hold your team accountable to those expectations.
  • It is your job to fire employees who are bringing your business and your team down.

Your bottom line depends on it.

  • It is also your job to trust your team to do their job you hired them to do.
  • It is your job to ask your team for input.
  • It is your job to acknowledge good work.
  • It is your job to stretch your team, so they are contributing at the highest level.

It isn't easy, but it's rewarding as hell.

You got this.


PS If you are struggling with leading your team and you'd like to work with me directly, I'd be honored.  I will help you build a foundation of expectations and I will teach you how to hold your team accountable. Simply reply to the message and let me know!




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