Give yourself permission to be a beginner.

Feb 11, 2020

If you are anything like me, when you tackle something new, you go ALL IN.   

You are excited to learn.  You jump in headfirst. You research all the things, you try all the things, you talk about all the things, and expect to be the expert at all the things…in 2.2 seconds.

It is kinda like eating healthy for three days and expecting to lose all your extra weight.

This approach makes most people feel defeated – maybe even hopeless – and they start to toy with the idea of giving up…quitting.

Hello – Ka-jillion dollar dieting industry!

I have seen so many people take this same approach with leadership.  They go all in.  Cram their heads with tons of information only to get burnt out and give up.   

It doesn’t work like that.  It takes time to learn how to learn anything new – including learning to lead.

I think you know that - or at least you hope that is the case – because you are reading this email and have taken my 5-day free leadership training.  (You did take it, didn’t you?)

My guess is that when you first made the decision to take your business to the next level and hire a team, you might have been a little hesitant, but there was part of you that was really excited. Am I right?

You probably pictured the honeymoon version.  Everyone kicking butt and taking names.  A big old family who worked hard but had a blast doing it.  Your business more successful than you could have ever imagined.


Remember thinking that? 

My guess is reality is a tiny bit different.

Okay, A LOT different.

So now you are looking for answers.  Solutions to your problem.  And you need them right now.

You are scouring the internet for answers.  You are reading books, blogs, watching videos, etc.  You found me. There is a ton of information out there.

And now you are overwhelmed by all the information AND your team, and you don’t know where to start.

You are now questioning why you thought it would be fun to lead a team.  Thoughts of escaping reality to a remote location where no one can find you keep floating around your head.

Here’s the thing, learning to be a leader cannot be rushed. 

Trying to figure it all out and get it right ASAP is only going to lead you to question your sanity. 

May I suggest a different approach, simply start by questioning the story you are telling yourself about your team and learning how to lead. 

Remember the story you are telling yourself (your thoughts) drive the way you feel.  The way you feel dictates what action you take.  The action that you take (or don’t take) determines your results.

If you are telling yourself that building a team shouldn’t be this hard and that you should be able to figure it and get right asap, that maybe you shouldn’t grow your business or that it is easier to work 18 hours a day then to tell Suzie how to handle your invoices ONE.MORE.TIME

Stop it.

That story stinks and it isn’t going to help you learn how to lead.

Instead, give yourself permission to be a beginner - whether you are brand spanking new to leading or have had a team for a while.

Learning how to build an effective team takes time. 

Start telling yourself a story that goes something like, “This is just the beginning.  I am going to take my time and learn how to do this the right way.  One thing at a time.”

Notice how that feels.

For me, when I remind myself that it is okay to be a beginner, it’s like taking a really deep breath.  It feels good – and sane.

I have more clarity and more motivation to look at all the pieces of the puzzle and to pick one to focus on – knowing that one piece at a time will eventually lead me to the big picture.

Give yourself permission to be a beginner and stick with me.

I’ve got you.

I am here to help you become the leader you imagined – one piece at a time.


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