As leaders, we are often challenged with knowing 'the' right way to handle a situation.
These past few months...days...may find you struggling even more than usual.
Such heaviness in the world.
The advice I give leaders (and myself) is to be authentically YOU in everything you do.
This will look different for each person, for each event, for each day. And that is okay.
There is no right way.
My advice is to check in with yourself first. How are you feeling? What is going on for you? Get clear in your head. Feel all the feels.
This doesn't mean tuck away everything going on in that beautiful brain of yours and getting on with business as usual.
It means to acknowledge your truth.
And then check in with your team. Give them space to be human. To feel. To react. To process.
Then figure out how to move forward with work today. And then the next day. And then the next.
Compassion and kindness - for your team - for you.
Your employees should cost you nothing. Zero. Zilch. Nada.
They should make you money.
Your team exists to execute your business model and generate revenue.
Your team doesn't exist to suck up all your time with questions, with drama, with training.
I understand. You're not alone.
When you've never been taught how to set up systems and processes for your business and lead a team, it feels impossible.
So many of my clients hired their team to fix a problem.
That only makes things worse.
Here's the thing.
Before you hire a team, you need to have your systems and processes dialed in.
I know, I know. That sounds so boring - and it is at first.
BUT then it is incredible because your business starts to run like a well-oiled machine.
You no longer have to worry about 'Sally' ever leaving because she is the only one who knows how to do that thing.
Your business is no longer people dependent.
Once you have your systems and...
Here's your PSA for the day: You're the boss.
My first team were fifteen Jersey girls who were older than me, had way more tenure, and worked remotely in the field. My office was in the "Ivory Tower" (our corporate office).
Not my dream job.
I had no training (big shocker), and I had some big goals.
I was clueless.
As a hardcore people-pleaser, I thought I'll get in there and be their friend. Get them to like me. Once they like me, it'll be rainbows and sunshine.
Not so much.
Each of them had their way of doing things, and they had been doing it this way for a long time. They had no interest in changing.
"It ain't' broke, so why fix it."
Except it was 'broke.'
Something was going to have to change, but I was struggling with what to do next.
Then my knight in shining armor, in the form of my HR Manager, arrived.
She talked me off the ledge and gave me permission to be the boss.
"You need to use the boss card."
"They are doing their own thing...
I was swimming in insecurity yesterday, like it was my job.
I was talking to a girlfriend about how horrible I am at all.the.things (such a drama queen).
"You? You always seem so confident."
My response (in my head), of course, was, "Girl, you're cray, cray! Can't you see all the crazy floating around in my head?"
My real response was, "Hmm, that's interesting."
The truth is sometimes I am like, "Bring it world. I got you." And other times I am like, "I'm just gonna crawl into this hole and hide. I'm not feelin' it today."
Ah! The joy of being human.
So why all the insecurity, you ask?
I am building a business, and it is uncomfortable.
This month, I decided to join a Mastermind my coach was offering because I know there is power in taking this journey with entrepreneurs on the same path as me.
And it has been amazing, but it is also highlighting areas of growth for me.
The journey of entrepreneurship has been fascinating. It's challenging so...
...quit his job by grabbing two beers, deploying the plane’s evacuation slide and sliding down it?
He had enough. He wasn’t going to take it anymore.
Be honest, did you secretly cheer for him or maybe even envy him a little bit?
Have you ever had a moment where you wish you could grab some beers and slide away?
Especially now that you are leading a team?
I am sure you thought hiring a team was going to make your job easier, but it only made it more challenging.
Here’s the thing, leading a team doesn’t have to be hard.
No, seriously. It doesn’t. Let me explain.
Leadership is a learned skillset. It isn’t something some people are born with, and others aren’t.
When you started your business, it was hard work, but you only had to worry about yourself. You learned what you needed to do to ensure your business would be successful. And it was, but you still wanted to grow. The next obvious step was to start to hire a team…to make things...
"I have no time to get anything done."
Be honest with me, Jen. How often have you said this?
I know I have. (more times than I want to admit)
If you are anything like me, maybe you bought all the latest and greatest planners because that was the key to having more time (and who doesn't love a good planner?!? amiright?).
Maybe you watched an infomercial about the last time management system you'll ever need to buy, and you knew this was the answer.
OR maybe you got old school and gave yourself a stern talking to about how you spend your time.
Been there done that.
It wasn't until I realized that it wasn't my time that needed to be managed, that it was ME who needed to be managed, that everything changed.
I did a Facebook live on this topic a couple of months ago, and it was received with rave reviews.
I thought I'd share it with you because if I have a sneaking suspicion, many of you are still struggling with how to get all the things done....
And yes, Netflix asked me, "are you still watching?"...several times.
Each time, I yelled at it to stop judging me as I pressed the 'continue to watch' button.
Me. Netflix, My couch. Some homemade peanut butter bread.
Exactly what the doctor ordered.
I spent most of yesterday (prior to noted Netflix binge) feeling extremely anxious. I was worried about everything - my family, my friends, my business, your business, my hair, the pandemic, the protestors, the state of the world, all the things.
I tried to coach myself out of it, but my brain was having none of it. So I stopped, got out a comfy blanket, and plopped on the couch.
This morning, I feel human again.
I have been pushing myself too much lately - working a lot. I justified it because really 'what else is there to do.' And, of course, work provides a nice distraction from all the crazy-ass stuff going on in the world right now.
All work and no self-care makes Jen a cranky 'you know what.'
Are you taking care of yourself...
These days have been strange for me...for all of us.
I am heading toward the end of week 4 of social distancing. It feels so weird. I have been on the road every week this year - and suddenly everything came to a screeching halt.
Now I find myself all over the place with my emotions. One day I am ready to take on the world the next I am contemplating the value of brushing my hair. You?
Life is uncertain.
COVID-19 is just a new way to remind us of the uncertainty of life. Our brains are like "WTF is this? I haven't mentally prepared for this one?!?"
It is our brain's job to keep us safe - even though sometimes it gets in the way of us living.
For right now, let your brain do its job. Let it worry. But don't let it paralyze you.
When you start to feel worried, feel worried but do something while your brain is running a million miles an hour. Use that energy wisely.
I clean. Like really clean. I went all Marie Kondo on my condo. Cleaning grounds me.
I had an interesting chat with a potential client yesterday, and I wanted to share it with you.
As I usually do during a consultation, I wanted to find out exactly what was going on with her, her team, and what exactly she hoped to gain by working with me. We went through 'all the things'. By the end of the call, she was All IN and excited to get to work.
And then she wasn't.
And I LOVED her reason!
She realized she was exhausted and worn out. She needed to rest, to restore - NOT go All IN on herself, her business, and her team. She hadn't taken a real break in YEARS and now she could. AND she wanted a break. Yes!
I loved that she listened to and honored her body.
I am the first one to tell people that health - both physical and mental - should be your number one priority. Without your health, you ain't got nothin'.
As entrepreneurs, you are wired to HUSTLE. This is why you are so...
→Inspiring your team to do their best work
→Giving up the need to micro-manage
→Having tough conversations without all the mental drama
→Having a life outside of work
→Enjoying your business again
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